Tuesday, April 9, 2013

December 10th 2012

Liam Bear
A bunch of people from Brad's office collected a total of 1,400 dollars to donate to a group called "Molly Bear". They make bears for families of people who lost little ones. The money they raised paid for our "Liam Bear" and for several other families who lost little ones to get a bear.
The bear weighs 5.2 pounds, exactly what Liam weighed when he was born.
Brad opened it when he got home from work tonight. At first I found it very to have Liam Bear here and I started crying at the dinner table. Brad asked me if I liked it, which I do. It just makes me think of Liam to hold the bear having it weigh what Liam weighed. It's just a little much all at once. Perhaps the timing with just having put Liam's stuff away is a bit much.
After dinner I found myself holding Liam bear over my shoulder, rocking him, and patting him on the back. I closed my eyes and imagined what it would be like if that were actually Liam. AAAAHHH it would be a dream come true.
Even while I was making dinner tonight, I looked across the room and imagined what it would be like if Liam were in the swing, or the bouncy seat, maybe sitting at the counter next to me. Those are things I have wondered and dreamed about my whole life and now the answers to those questions allude me.

While holding Liam Bear I instantly thought that I could become of those people who become obsessed with something like a bear and thinking it has feelings and is a real person. Nah, we will put it in Liam's, well the spare room with his scrapbook and keepsake box.

It truly amazes me how many people have reached out in different ways to help us. Lot's of money, gift cards, Molly Bear, this angel thing (where people we don't even know send us angles and cards) so much love and support is what has gotten us through this. That, and the mighty hand of God.

While it all helps, nothing makes the pain any easier. This AM I felt like I was having a pretty good day. I printed off my journal entries from the website I had created when we found out were pregnant and then I deleted the sight all together. I was sad, but I was ok. This evening for some reason I am fighting back the tears the whole night and feel overwhelmed with sadness at the fact that Liam isn't here with us like he should be. Grief can sneak up on you sometimes. Sometimes it's a moment by moment thing.
Ugh Liam, I love and miss you more than you will ever know.

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