You can't store it up
My mom has said no, both when she was here when Izzy was born and had to leave, and when we were just in Iowa and left, that you can't store up time with someone. Mom got to spend the first t3 weeks of Izzy's life with her but that didn't make having to say good-bye any easier. Being home for 10 days on Izzy's first trip to Iowa was awesome, but leaving was so hard.
You can't spend enough time with someone and bank those hours to get you through the time apart.
I feel the same way with Liam. I couldn't have held him long enough when he was born to get me through a lifetime without him. I couldn't have stored up enough time with him to get me through ONE day without him. You just can't store it up. You have to enjoy the here and now and moments for everything you can squeeze out of them for when they are gone, they are gone. It's part of what makes grieving a still born so hard, those moments that I did have with Liam, while I tried to soak in all I could, were both amazing to finally see and hold him, and so gut retching because he was gone.
Thinking about Izzy and grandparents, friends, and family I am glad in a way that you can't store up time with someone. That you can't say "well I got to spend a week with you so I am good for a few months" I am not ok with not seeing loved ones for an extended period of time, which makes living for away really hard. I always want to have that desire to spend quality time with those that are important to me. I think people and relationships are what make life what it is.
It's what makes having Izzy so special and what makes not having Liam so hard.
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